My current thought is to resolve your past. You must be able to tell your story the way you experienced it.
to live a good life, you must be able to be okay with the past regardless of your concern of protecting others of the story. It is not respectful to them and you if you do not speak the story from your viewpoint. If something that was done that is wrong from your viewpoint. They must explain themselves.
in life you must be responsible for yourself. You must be able to identify yourself . You must be yourself.